As a  human of course there is span of life that is reducing second by second. And time after time it depend on us will us regret of what we have done or very grateful of what we got. In the end of course it will be much more relieving when appreciating each other than to look for others' faults.or flaws. When someone look for spouse' faults than to appreciate and chat closely.. continuously, by full second, minutes, hour .. not just talking about superficial things that will fade overtime, or when leaving child with TV that causes speech delay..When there is appreciation, and care perfection would come naturally without being asked because someone feel appreciated and would do the best for making someone that they care feel comfortable. Without appreciation is just like a black and white painting without any color in it.